“I work hard, I get good contracts, but I never achieve my financial goals!”
You do everything right to achieve success, but somehow the end result is never quite what you had hoped for. Despite superhuman efforts, following strategies and procedures, and following your best intentions, you are often disappointed, and rarely satisfied.
Though common and frustrating, luckily, it is also completely reversible.
After numerous disappointments, you finally tell yourself that you just do not deserve more. But you do. And you can get exactly what you want. It’s all about tackling your mental hygiene, which means developing healthy thoughts and paradigms that propel your assertiveness and support your ambitions.
Basically, the image you have of yourself comes from the inner story you have been telling yourself and holding on to, since childhood. Wounds buried deep in your psyche— we all have them—affect what you believe about yourself. And like a mainframe server that is not so user-friendly, we use our minds, without clear understanding or instructions, to feed deep-seeded beliefs about ourselves, and about others. These beliefs become a determining factor in our lives.
Understanding, controlling, and realigning everything, allows you to eliminate thoughts and behaviours that undermine your success, so you can enjoy the benefits of a healthy, powerful, and efficient mindset.
In business, and in life, pretending is useless.
You can hide your weaknesses for a while but eventually, self-sabotaging behaviour and unhealthy self-management symptoms will resurface:
- Missing objectives for no apparent reason
- Feeling self-doubt, discouragement, and frustration
- Fomenting tense relationships and blaming others
- Losing the desire to innovate
While most managers and entrepreneurs want to control their decisions and destinies, it is rarely the case. Eventually, weaknesses are felt, people are destabilized, their entourage worries, and changes are necessary. Unfortunately, most of the time, symptoms are addressed, without ever looking for the root cause. Cycles are thus repeated, and the desired improvements are short-lived.
While intentions are good, this happens frequently. On the surface, most businesses are comfortable with surface change. Improvisation, suppression, and concealment are commonly accepted.
On the one hand, managers and decision makers do not feel threatened and, on the other, nobody needs to perform deep self-evaluation to analyze and understand their beliefs, emotions, choices, and skills. In the short term, good results can be obtained with poor methods but eventually, this approach runs out of steam and shows its inefficiencies.
Our mental hygiene and emotional intelligence training develops 2 key skills:
How to be: Eliminate taboos and transform the paradigms that inhibit your performance. Be authentic and feel good about yourself by eradicating limiting beliefs and building the confidence to make good decisions and inspire others.
How to do: Communicate powerful messages in complex situations to obtain consent, with integrity. Develop the courage and assertiveness to adopt necessary *behaviours for sustainable, strategic success.
* Behaviour is defined as a set of ways we do things, that correspond to an individual’s logic and that is influenced by his/her emotions. “Anger, envy, sadness, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt and ego can all influence said behaviour.
Knowing how to be and then how to act, gets you exactly what you want!
- Reprogram your internal GPS: the internal dialogue or the image you have of yourself.
- Understand the anatomy of character: who you really are and how did you become what you think you are?
- Transform the limiting paradigms developed by your deep-seeded childhood memories.
- Improve your presence by revealing your true essence
- Manage emotional issues and develop self-regulation
- Find the right emotional distance to express feelings and discuss disagreements
- Gain control over your reactions to criticism and rejection
- Regulate your emotions and authority to get what you want, especially with people who are allergic to discipline
- Acquire basic influencing skills while maintaining integrity: oral expression, simplicity, and clarity of message, illustrating your thoughts and non-verbal expression.
1. Know yourself so you can control your emotions
- Understand the architecture of the human brain and the nature of your emotions
- Identify self-sabotage and recognize your internal dialogue and self-image
- Grasp the anatomy of character and how humans limit themselves to a cluster of memories
- Analyze: How did you become what you think you are?
- Review your life’s timeline and the events that impacted you
- Clean your mind with an extraordinary 60-minute exercise on the power of forgiveness
- Reprogram your mind’s GPS and transform limiting beliefs thanks to a forceful, life-changing experience
- Trigger and maintain a state of excellence (be in your zone or find your flow)
- Create a new self-interpretation that supports success strategies
- Ensure consistency between your verbal and non-verbal messages
- Learn to feel good about yourself by developing emotional intelligence
- Continually expand your comfort zone
2. Developing situational intelligence
Everyone builds their own reality and assumes their way is the perfect way. Because of this, relationships are always based on rivalry. Each believes he/she has THE ideal formula.
- Become the observer of your thoughts and interpretations
- Observe individuals on 3 levels: behaviours, interpersonal relationships and political games
- Improve observation skills and develop reading grids to help identify where to lead the conversation
- Use the power of empathy, practice “step in” and “step out”
- Effectively manage interactions in stressful situations or with difficult people (closed, authoritarian or non-receptive individuals)
- Identify your strengths and weaknesses in terms of business communication
- Understand and align yourself temporarily with the position of the other person, to then redirect the conversation (pace and lead)
- Distinguish between a behaviour and a skill. The simple competency is used to modify behaviour. It then comes into play with the complex skill of sharing and assertiveness.
- Accompany others to guide them in seeing things differently
3. Communicate differently to develop and use generative language
- Deliver powerful presentations
- Structure and present your ideas to make them irresistible
- Talk to the head, the heart, and the wallet
- Avoid putting your foot in your mouth, consciously or unconsciously
- Alleviate negative attitudes through mental judo
- Remain focused on the goal and move skillfully from one step to the next
- Influence with integrity and propose your ideas with zero resistance, whether you are in a position of power, or not.
- Use the power and potential of analogies and metaphors
- Interactive concept presentations
- Role playing and practice
- 60 to 90 minutes of individual mental hygiene intervention to unleash your full potential
- Individual improvement plan